As our lives have grown busier and busier lately between shooting, managing the new studio space, renovating our home, traveling, making new connections…and at some point trying to make more time for each other and our babies, I feel like today I need to take a moment and reel it all in. Bring it back to why. Why are we on this crazy ride? Where do we want it to take us? Almost every day I feel like I’m failing at something. Failing as a blogger because I didn’t get 5 posts up last week, failing as a mother because I only saw the boys for 30 minutes before bedtime the other night, failing as a friend because I haven’t called my best buds in months…it seems like no matter what priorities I choose to put first each day I’m leaving others in the dust. This isn’t new for me – and I can admit that placing myself just on the verge of being overwhelmed is my happy place. It’s how I know that I’m really doing something, that I’m really making things happen. And this past weekend, as we made the drive up to North Georgia to shoot, we started taking and really diving into our why. We started sorting through all of the fluff and getting into the nitty gritty of why we recently chose to pack our entire life in a U-Haul and drive 2,672 miles across the country to pursue this dream full time.
In my mind I want to live a life of intention, but in reality it’s really hard. All I want to do is sprint, full speed, towards our dreams and goals – to throw every second and every bit of effort into this business and this blog and our clients and our family…and it is really really hard for me to slow down.
In light of that, we’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about what’s important to us and what our priorities are, so that we can put those priorities first in our lives and our business, and this past weekend that conversation kept circling back to our why. Why do we do what we do? Why is photography our passion? Why is blogging important to me and for our business? Why is shooting weddings important to us?
As Buddha has said “The trouble is, you think you have time.” And it’s true. We all think we have time. We think that we’ll do what matters most next month, or next year…or that if we can just get through this next hurdle or around this next corner we’ll be where we want to be or do what we want to do – I know that we’ve fallen into that trap many times. But the truth is that none of us know how much time we have. And we all want to do something that matters. And what Rick and I believe in and know, more than anything, is that telling stories through photography is our thing. Our why. Our passion. Our reason for everything else.
We believe in marriage. In love. In what we have in our own marriage. In promising your best friend that you’re going to stand by their side no matter what life throws at you. We believe in tears shed with your father just before you walk down the aisle, in the look on your face when you first see yourself in the mirror all dressed up, in your grandmother’s shaking hands as she runs her fingers over the lace of your veil that came from her own wedding gown. We believe in that moment when your best man’s voice cracks as he begins his toast and he can’t get the words out. We believe in the comfortable way that your groom holds your hands during your portraits, knowing that those same hands will hold you for the rest of your lives. We believe in mornings of mimosas in the girl’s suite and beers in the guy’s suite, in the love and laughter that will fill the rooms as you prepare for your day. We believe in first dances, because we know that your song will forever transport you right back to that moment – and years from now you’ll still remember how it felt to have your foreheads pressed together and his hand on the small of your back. We believe in classic and timeless. We believe in romance. We believe in all of the moments that are going to happen on your wedding day that you won’t even know about until you see your photos. In the happy tears that will be shed, the glances exchanged, the connections made, in the care that your ushers will take as they escort your guests to their seats, in the way your flower girl will dump the entire basket of flowers on the ground at the beginning of the aisle, in the way that your father will pull your mother close to him as they listen to you recite your vows, in the way your partner will look at you as you promise them forever. We believe in the moment that you’ll giggle together the first time you call each other “husband” and “wife” after your ceremony, and we believe in all of the little imperfect moments along the way. And most of all, we believe in preserving your day not only for you, but for all of the generations to come. We believe in the tangible in today’s electronic world – in dusty wedding albums discovered in attics 100 years from now. We believe in your love story, and we want to tell every precious piece and part of it.
What’s your why? Whatever it is that’s taking up the most space in your life right now, I hope that on this Monday morning you can take a few minutes to think about your why, refocus, and remember what it’s all about. If you’re thick in the forest of wedding planning, remember that your marriage is what matters, and it’s going to be beautiful. If you’re building your own business, pursuing that next job, that next promotion, that next thing, bring it back to why. Your why is where your heart lies, where you’ll find your passion, and where your time will matter most – and where it takes you just might be better than any plans you could have made… Love, A